Problem: You’ve met this girl and you really like her. You have started off as friends but you want to take it to the next level. But there is a problem… Have you noticed that your friend is just not accepting you as a potential mate? And now you are starting to get confused. Your feelings for her are the same, in fact, they’ve deepened, but she seems to have stuck you firmly in the friend category and there is no way to escape it!
Solution: You’ve got stuck firmly in the FRIEND ZONE but there is hope for you yet. It will take time and effort and you will require emotional toughness, strength and patience. Start off with these few simple steps and you should be ok.
Step 1- Step Out of Her Social Circle
Most of the time, you are so deep into her friend circle that you are a part of her gal pal gang. Ideally, women get interested in a man, woo him and then only then introduce him to her friends. If you’ve been pushed into meeting her friends right away, you are probably well into her friend circle already.
Just step out of it. Go out with your male friends. Have boys only days and avoid anything that looks remotely girly in nature. Be polite to her friends but avoid getting so close to them that they call you up all the time for advice on men and dating.
If you are already in the gal pal gang, stop hanging around with them and find more male friends. If possible get a female friend as a date and go on dates.
Step 2- Improve Yourself
Everyone can do with improvement. We aren’t saying that you are bad. We are just saying that you can and should create another image of yourself which will change the perception she has of you being her friend. For example, you can start by bulking up with exercise, weight loss, a better wardrobe, different hair styles, better language etc.
Try some sports where you can get your adrenaline pumping and get your body into shape. Believe, me when other women start to notice, not only does it make your feel better but it gives you a different tinge in the eyes of your woman.
Step 3- Flirt With Other Women
You cannot and should not limit yourself to one woman. Yes, you like this one woman and all your efforts are to attract her. But if you can, then you should flirt with as many women as possible. A good flirting session can actually do wonders to your ego and make you feel like a king. That confidence immediately shines through and women do notice it. If you score with a woman, all the better for you?
Step 4- Ask Her Out on a Date
You’ve got the experience and confidence. Now is the time to try this out on her. Use everything you have learned like new activities, new knowledge and other improvements to ask her out and impress her on a date. Be very casual when you are doing this as you don’t want to frighten her off. Be as touchy feely as possible on the date.
Try holding her hand, smiling down at her, hugging her, hands on the small of her back etc. Make her feel attractive and happy to be with an attractive man like you. If she starts talking about her male friends, then you can talk about your girl friends and what you did with them. Being provocative is fine too as it will encourage tinges of jealousy and envy.